7 kinds of internal criticism

7 kinds of internal criticism

7 kinds of internal criticism

Meet the 7 types of Inner Criticism, the most destructive habit of our mind.

Lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem, and low motivation to act may not be the result of limiting beliefs or a lack of self-confidence.

Very often, what holds you back so much is your Inner Critic.

It's that part of your personality that evaluates your every move and every action every day, criticizing them in all sorts of ways. To work on the Inner Critic at all, we first need to understand how this part of our personality actually works.

It turns out that no two internal critics are the same. Each of us experiences this part in our own way. Moreover, the psychologist Jay Earley distinguished 7 types of Internal Criticism. Each of them assesses a specific aspect of our lives in their own way. Some of us have more than one type of criticism. Some people have an internal criticism that is a mixture of several different variations of it.

Please review the list below to find out which Critic is in your head.

1. Perfectionist

I want you to do everything perfectly and flawlessly. It has very high standards, and when you don't meet them. Internal critic - Perfectionist attacks and says that your actions are not good enough. It often makes it difficult to start a project by saying that you will definitely not be able to do the thing in the right, required way.

A perfectionist usually says ...

"Try harder!"

"You'll never do it right."

"You're not gonna leave it like that, are you?"

"Your job is worthless!"

2. Controller

The task of this inner critic is to control impulsive behaviors, such as eating sweets, drinking alcohol, using drugs, and various stimulants (coffee, cigarettes). When you do either of these things, the Controller will start blaming and criticizing you.

The controller usually says ...

"You did it again ... You should be ashamed!"

"You don't have any willpower."

"You'll never get over this again!"

3. Taskmaster

He will do everything to make you work as hard as possible. This inner critic motivates you by telling you that you are lazy, that you have accomplished nothing, that you lack competence. He often gets into a fight with another part of his personality - the Procrastinator (who postpones his work until later).

The taskmaster usually says ...

"You are an ordinary, smelly lazy."

"Get to work finally!"

"Rest is for the weak."

"You won't achieve anything in life if you don't start working hard."

4. Excavator

His task is to cut the wings to avoid the risk of failure. It lowers your self-esteem and self-esteem, resulting in paralysis and inaction. The Internal Critic The Underminer tells you that you are worthless and that you will fail.

The Underminer usually says ...

"You're worth nothing."

"Don't even try because you won't succeed anyway."

"It doesn't make any sense."

"Give it up, why waste your time?"

5. Destroyer

This inner critic attacks your self-esteem by telling you that you shouldn't exist. It evokes a strong sense of shame.

Destroyer usually says ...

"You should never be born!"

"You are one big failure."

"You are worthless."

6. The offender

His job is to blame you for certain actions and decisions that you have made (or have not made) in the past. Often it is about the harm that you have knowingly or not done to other people (especially to those who are important to you).

The offender usually says ...

"How could you do this?"

"You will regret it for the rest of your life."

"He will never forgive you."

"You won't forgive yourself for that."

7. Former

Its purpose is to make you fit into a certain social framework so that you don't "lean out". It shapes you to fit in with family values ​​and culture. He attacks when you do not fit in with the pattern, praises when you are in harmony with it.

The educator usually says ...

"Don't make a fool of yourself."

"Don't lean out!"

"Do as you are bid."

"What will others think about you?"

Why is it so important to understand what inner critics (or critics) are part of your psyche?

Because you work differently with each of them. It goes without saying that the Inner Critic, at first glance, is just a bastard who we want to get rid of at the first possible opportunity. However, like any part of the personality, it has a purpose to fulfill. And although he does not implement it in a very good way for us, somewhere deep inside - he wants to do well for us.

One Critic cares about your safety, another protects you from rejection, and another protects you from negative evaluation by other people. Depending on the type of internal critic, their motives will be different, which means that you will work differently to transform them into a constructive and supportive part of their personality.

As we begin to understand at a deeper level how our Inner Critic works, we quickly realize that the best way to free ourselves from him is not to fight. It is a conversation, establishing relationships and getting along. Then the Critic becomes Support. And we regain confidence and energy for life.

I covered the entire process of working on the Inner Critic during my "Freedom from Inner Critic" course. It is a 15-day change program, full of practical and life exercises.

During the course, you will take a test to determine which internal critic (or critics) is part of your thinking. You will learn ways to discover the true intent of this sub-personality. You will also learn methods to engage in dialogue with the critic and other parts that affect you in a negative way.

And finally - write in the comments if you have any idea at this stage which kind of Internal Critic is part of your personality. Let's see which internal critic in our society is the most common :-)

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